To Hell With the Timeline

Probably my biggest struggle of the past 2 years is letting go of the timeline I've mentally created for my life. I am a very goal-oriented person, so I like to have a plan ahead of me. This has worked well for most of my life, and makes me feel great when I accomplish a …

The Balance

It finally happened. I have broken the cycle of misery. Finally, I have a job I love making a decent wage. It's hard to believe I found something that ticks all the boxes. Since graduating from college and starting a professional career, I have been in the following work situations: 1 full-time job (crippling, debilitating) …

Bipolar Lullaby

To you, she seems normal. To you, she's just reacting how anyone would, given her situation. To you, she's a victim and is thereby worthy of pity, excessive praise, and constant support. You make excuse after excuse for her behavior, even rallying the brigade on her behalf. It's easy for her to draw you in, …

Doorslamming

It amazes me the things human beings will put up with, no matter how damaging. We allow folks to linger in our lives too long, harbor resentment for years, tolerate pushy and insensitive relatives for the sake of "family," and spend countless nights staying up late worrying over problems that we can solve ourselves: Close. …

Better Whole

Nearly every little girl is raised to think that she is somebody else's half. As if she spends the sum total of her single years wandering around as half a person. I don't think men are trained to think this way. They aren't usually told that the climax of their life will be when they …

Know Thyself

I've recently realized something about one of the most important relationships of my life so far. In nearly all of my friendships, the relationship has consisted of sharing stories, life events, offering advice, etc. I talk about me, you talk about you, we laugh, we smile, we have a good time. But one of my …

If My Life Were a TV Series

Last week I finished watching Friends, and this week I started watching Sex and the City. I'm a 90s baby, so when these shows were running, I was more preoccupied with what Nickelodeon and Cartoon Network had to offer. I fell in love with Friends, and decided to give another 90s classic a try with …

On Toxic People

I've done more self-reflecting in the past year than I have the whole rest of my life. Probably the biggest realization I've come to is that I need to purge my life of toxic people. Far too often, I've found myself making excuses for them, breaking my back for them, and allowing myself to be …

I Miss My Friends

Lately I haven't been the greatest friend. No, I haven't betrayed anyone, but I did what all of us girls promise ourselves we will never do at the beginning of a new relationship: I gave my new boyfriend dibs on all my free time. I'm not at all proud of it. In fact, I feel …

Forever

The concept of forever is hard for the human mind to grasp. We know it means to continue on until infinity, but because everything in our physical world has a clear beginning and ending, this word is abstract to us. There is one instance that I find especially intriguing when the word forever is used: …